Meditate Your Way To Higher Self Esteem And Greater Love... With Jesus!
Many people who enter a relationship loose themselves, and even their identity, when they commit. This form of attachment is unhealthy and can lead to RCSE, or Relationship-Contingent Self-Esteem.
This means that a person depends on, or is contingent upon, the positive feedback from another individual, namely a loved one, for their feelings of self-worth. Decades of research and study has proven that a person can never be dependent on another human being for feelings of adequacy or esteem. This is just human nature. How can one imperfect human being fulfill another imperfect human being. It's impossible. And that's where the problems begin.
Relying on others to fulfill our self worth is something that should be avoided altogether. If it isn't, it can spark an almost obsessive preoccupation in finding meaning with others and can make a person hyper-vigilant in their attempts for acceptance. This can quickly lead to low self esteem and make a person overly sensitive to any negative situation or word.
No matter the cause, the likelihood of issues like anxiety, stress, and depression becomes accentuated. In a 2008 study by researchers at the University of Houston associated high levels of contingent self esteem to the the psychological magnification of emotions. This can wreak havoc in a person's heart, soul, mind, and body, not to mention the concept of self image.
This kind of emotional pattern inevitably leads to a defensive mode rather than observing life with calmness, understanding, and with sense of neutrality. As a result, relationships with any person stops. This lowers self-esteem even more.
When jealousy or inadequacy enter the mix, research shows that alcoholism or drug addiction may be an avenue to deal with the unpleasant feelings.Substance abuse can damage one's ability think clearly and objectively further compounding the emotional devastation after angry words fly.
Healing Self Esteem Issues With Love
Face it, their isn't a human being in the world that can give you right self-assurance, at the right time, and in the right quantity, ever. Only God your creator knows exactly what you need, how much you need, and when you need it the most.
Consider the following questions: If your relationship ended today, how would you feel about yourself? If a person, anyone, spoke harsh words toward you, how would you feel? Would you feel less significant? Are you always on the lookout for signs of rejection? Do you negate all the other sources of joy in your life to keep a relationship? Do you feel as though you can never get enough reassurance and closeness from others?
If you’re constantly looking to others for feelings of self worth and adequacy, it’s probably time for change. Counseling and therapy can help you change distorted thinking and help you work toward an independent identity that loves and understands with strength and wisdom. By being your best you can pursue goals, dreams, and healthy relationships.
Depending on others and expecting them to fill the emotional void can never create happiness in your life. Instead you should exude love, life, and happiness that you can share with others. And that comes with love.
The greatest commandment is to love God with all your heart, soul, and mind. the second greatest commandment is to love others as your self. (Matthew 22:36-40) Paradoxically, when we let go of our self-centered need to receive from others and give selflessly we receive -- from God. This is the path of greatest fulfillment, joy, and love.
Jesus put it this way: "Most assuredly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the ground and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it produces much grain. He who loves his life will lose it, and he who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life" (John 12:24 - 25)
Do you want God's eternal life to vibrantly flow through you, then the ego-self must so the Christ-self can be found.
Guided Christian Meditation For Love and Self Esteem - Technique and Script
Prep Work: The cornerstone of this meditation is your love for God. Before you begin go through the Bible and write down, or memorize a phrase, or verse, about God's love. The verse, or verses must be about your love for Him, or His love for you. You can alternate themes during the week.
1. Find a comfortable place to sit quietly for 10 to 20 minutes. Get into a comfortable seated position and close your eyes.
2. Now, take a long deep breath, hold it for a couple seconds, and release. Do this about 3 or 4 times and relax as you breathe.
3. Let your breath return to its natural rhythm. Mentally watch your breath as it flows in and out of your chest.
4. It's perfectly normal for your mind to start wander at this time, if it does, just let it be, and go back observing your breath. Your mind will eventually quiet down. Don;t worry about it.
5. As the brain begins to quiet down start contemplating on Jesus and start loving Him with all your heart, soul, and mind. Now allow to totally let go in you love for Him. Feel His love for you.
6. Stay in this state for about 2 - 3 minutes while you experience God's love.
7. Now realize that all people are God's creation and that God loves them all. See yourself loving all people like God. (Matthew 5:43-48) Do this for about 2 - 5 minutes.
8. Take a deep breath. Begin moving your hands and feet. Gently start moving your head. Then very slowly start to open your eyes.
9. Repeat every morning for 10 - 20 minutes.
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As you finish your meditation remember that it's important to read God's word every day. So open the Bible and meditate on the deep meaning of scripture. Hope this helps you on your journey. If you have any favorite guided Christian meditations for self esteem, or ideas, please share them below. We love you and we're praying for you. God bless. See you in the kingdom.