“Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 5:10
The secret of an extraordinarily fulfilling life is patient humility. I know many people who live constantly annoyed, or frustrated with everything in life.
Problems seem to come to them every day and in many ways. Life just seems to be an endless barrage of difficulties. From relationships, finances, to health nothing seems to go their way. For them, life is a continuous struggle.
Once a man wanted to talk to me about his problems and life. I accepted the request because I knew every problem experienced by mankind is known by God, and God promises a better future to those purposefully live in His grace.
I listen to the man for about 10 minutes. As he painted vivid pictures of car troubles, disagreements with family and friends, problems at work, and stress over finances, it dawned on me, the turmoil this man is experiencing doesn't come from the difficulties but from how he responds to them
Many of the situations and events he described are similar to the experiences of most people including his attentive host.
In a nonchalant way, I said, "so what's the problem." I answered in this way not because I didn't care about the man, but because I wanted to break through the almost hypnotic state he appeared to be in as he revealed the heartaches of his life. Judging by the confused look on his face the tactic worked.
His eyes twitched as he questioned me saying, "what?" I repeated the question, "So, what's the problem?" Now he stayed quiet and tilted his head. I knew I had his attention. His physical behavior demonstrated he was trying to process the event. That's when I interjected and said, "You realize everyone has similar problems to yours, right?"
I continued, "Everyone has car troubles, disagreements, problems at work, and concerns over health and finances, everyone." "But I see people who don't seem to have a care in the world. It doesn't seem like anything goes wrong for them." I said, "that's where you're wrong."
I explained to him that since Adam and Eve there isn't a single person who can escape the problems of life. Then I revealed to him that what he perceived from those people is the choice to respond to life in a different way.
Everyone has problems some people just choose to let the problem exist if it's out of their control, otherwise, they think and act in positive ways to improve the situation.
Then I went on to explain to the man that the core spiritual trait that drives people to go through life with a sunny disposition is humility. I shared with him how when we become humble to the thought that life is imperfect and that the only thing we can is to humbly accept this life as it is and love God and others we can better cope with life's difficulties.
I told him, "That's your starting point." I emphasized how he needs to let go of his desire for a perfect life because it doesn't exist and it's causing him stress. I advised him to find his best life by letting go in God's grace.
We may not have all the answers to of life's questions but we do have God's abounding grace which is all around us all the time.
When we let go of our expectations and continually rest in God's grace we become more creative, clear-minded, less stressed, loving, forgiving, and persistent with wise thought. I said to the man, "That's what you see in some people. They have the same problems as you, they just flow through them differently."
Apparently, my words got through. I began to see a sparkle in his eyes. I could see that his mind shifted from problem-centric to hope-centric.
"So you mean I should keep my mind on God and live in the moment with God." He answered. "I couldn't say it better. Yes! That's exactly right. That's how you feel His grace. If you keep your mind on problems that's all you'll experience inside" I replied.
The man leaned back, took a deep breath, and exclaimed, "I can do that. That's easy." Then he sighed in relief, chuckled, and said, "Boy do I feel better." I smiled and said, "feels good doesn't it."
"How can I repay you?" He replied. I said, "Go out there and I want you to love your family, your employer, your life, and God. I want you to love without limit every minute of every day. That's how I want you to repay me."
The man looked at me like I ask for a million dollars. So I said to him, "Before you answer, I want you to think what's at stake. A lifetime of misery or closeness to God. It's not going to be a perfect life but at least you'll have peace." I continued, "At times it may not be easy and will require fortitude of mind to choose God instead of a problem, but since God blessed you with the ability to choose and follow through it's possible."
The man tightened his lips and with steely resolve said, "I can do it." We shook hands and he left.
Two years later I received an email from the man. In his correspondence, he stated that after our meeting his life was turned upside down. His wife became gravely ill with a bone marrow disease, sales at his company dried up and was forced to leave, and the bills began to pile up.
He experienced a mild form of depression which didn't help the situation. But then he remembered our meeting. He replayed the experience in his mind over and over. That was enough to regain a little hope and joy.
Spurned by the glimmer of light he decided to lead his mind with positive thoughts of hope so he launched a daily habit of a Bible study and meditation. This proved invaluable.
The state of depression disappeared as he felt closer to God. The tranquility of mind gave way to a creative thought he executed on the web. With $130 borrowed from his mother, he created a unique real estate website that agents communicate with potential real estate buyers. Presented the idea to several local real estate offices and because he guaranteed results with no pay until properties were sold they all joined.
He rolled the program to more states, as he expanded it garnered the attention of several large real estate blogs who interviewed him, this led to more interviews.
In his message, he told me that because the website grew by leaps within 6 months he was able to monetize the traffic by running ads. Agents wanted premier positions on his site, so he began to charge for the service.
The man no longer has money problems, his wife survived the medical ordeal, work problems are a thing of the past, and he feels closer to God than ever.
The man expressed his gratitude and told me he was paying me back every day by humbling himself to live for God, and because he keeps an attitude of humility, loving God and others is easy, he says.
This man discovered the principle of Matthew 5:10. Although Jesus refers to religious persecutions in this verse, the principle is universally applicable. If we keep an attitude of humility and love through any type of difficulty we can experience God. The realm of God, or the kingdom of heaven within us, is what gives us hope, keeps our dreams alive, guides us, stimulates our creativity, and provides wisdom from above.
The concept is revolutionary in the sense that most people want to conquer life, when we only need to relinquish control in God. Then beautiful things happen.
Let life be what is then move forward in humility and love. Miracles happen when you let go.
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