A few years ago I read a story about a man named Henry. Henry was a devoted father and husband. He had a steady job and always provided for his family. But there was something wrong with Henry. Henry would often get angry. It seemed like any, and sometimes everything, would set him off. He'd yell at his wife and children over virtually nothing.
As months went by his anger progressed. Each day he got meaner and louder. Finally his wife decided to set a marital ultimatum. Either Henry got help, or it was over. Henry got help.
During his meeting with a counselor it was discovered that his father was the same way. He remembered how during his childhood his father yelled and screamed at his family. This caused little Henry to shrink inside. He was a quiet and shy little boy who never opened up to anybody. Soon he grew up and married a girl of his dreams.
The intimidation he felt growing up stayed with him. Henry now a fully grown man, and at the pinnacle of his life and career, felt confident enough to let go, and boy did he. His wife and kids got the brunt years of built-up pressure. What Henry and his family didn't know was that there are many ways to relieve pressure, and violent behavior toward others was not in anyone's best interest.
In fact, violent behavior and thoughts can get worst. Without intervention violence can destroy lives. This is especially true when drugs or alcohol enter the mix and Henry on occasion indulged himself. His wife alarmed at his more frequent indulgent behavior was the final straw that caused her set things straight.
Henry on the other hand simply saw his drinking as a way to relieve the pressure of life. Fortunately, Henry's life of love and success was saved. He was told by his counselor that his father was mistaken to express anger with violence in the household and that it was not Henry's fault. Henry also realized that what happened to him was thing of the past and the greatest fulfillment he received in life was from loving and taking care of his family. It really gave him a great deal of joy.
Next, he felt deep remorse at the thought he might be causing the same emotional harm to his children that he went through. A full explanation and apology to his wife and children was in order. Leaving all the stress and built-up tension behind, Henry learned that a few simple meditative breathing techniques is enough to soothe the nerves and calm the tension. Because Henry was Catholic. he combined the practice with prayer.
Within 12 months Henry's personality was completely changed. Henry had a quiet joyful demeanor. He was helpful and kind, even to strangers. He radiated peace. His kind demeanor was a magnet to his children who loved being with him. During his quiet times he'd often think about how he could improve his family's life. He'd arrange special trips and buy them anything that supported their development. His wife fell in love with even more, making Henry the happiest man who ever lived.
Henry found resolution and happiness but that's not always the case. Nearly 20% of all Americans are exposed to some form of violent behavior by someone close. That means there is a 20% chance you have been expose to a behavioral pattern that could be limiting your mindset, and therefore your life.
Violence is not the only generational woe of our society. A person is 10 times more likely to go to prison if one of their parents had been incarcerated. There is a 90% chance that a person will go to prison if the grow with in a fatherless environment or in a home exposed to violence, drugs, or alcohol.
What I've been describing to you are generational problems. Somewhere within a person's bloodline a person will descend into the deepest forms of carnality. That behavior can then pass on to the next generation, and so.
In Deuteronomy 5:9 the Bible tells us:
"you shall not bow down to them nor serve them. For I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me"
I often wonder if people know that every time they pick up a alcohol, a drug, or violently let loose, they bow down to the enemy. Accepting carnal behavior means we accept the spiritual source along with it. This is an offense to God and permitting these spiritual power to rule over our lives means it can rule over our children's lives, and so on.
The same psychology that affected your parents, and grand parents, can affect you, and your children. And it doesn't stop at violence or additions. Poverty is another generational curse that affects tens of millions.
Looking a little deeper we can see how someone's thought and decision to move out of God's grace is what caused the cascading effect. That decision can affect generations into the future with limiting thought, a defeatist attitude, hopelessness, and a victim mindset.
I'm here to tell you that you can be the first in your family line to break the curse for yourself and future generations. Just like Henry you need to look at your life objectively and just simply admit a problem exists.
Next you need to mend your ways. Forgive yourself and ask others to forgive you. Explain your new found knowledge to others and them to forgive for any pain you might have caused. If they don't forgive you, don't worry, that's not your problem, and maybe the pain the experienced was too much. Either way, you did the right thing in admitting your mistakes and asking for forgiveness.
With a clean heart confess to God. Be transparent in you confession and then submit to His power. God will restore you, clean you, and restore. You just need to admit it. Then you need to change.
Your next step is to clean house! Get rid of anything that doesn't contribute to a better life, this includes people. Some people can bring you down when you want to go up. Change your friends. Bring more people into your life who are like-minded.
Get books, CD's, and inspirational audio to help you change your mind. Start getting educated about any field of interest. With today's technology world's of information are accessible with a few key strokes and clicks.
Once you've amended your ways, got straight with God, and started an exploratory journey you need a spiritual discipline to keep you going. You don't want your engine to out of steam. God's Spirit is the fire you'll need to stay on course.
Find a church where you feel close to God, study God's word every day, and meditate.
Take time out every day to be still in meditation and experience God. (Psalm 46:10) Use this time to love God and to devote yourself to Him. God loves a humble heart and exalts people who are humble. This practice will keep you full of love, power, and motivation.
Maybe like Henry within a year you will find your bliss in loving and caring for others. Without the limiting shackles on the mind, and with God's help, all things are possible.
Be kind to others and yourself. Stay true to your faith.
We love you. We're praying for you. See you in the kingdom.